I was reading through a magazine last night and saw an advice column about ditching an unwanted friend. The advice covered several scenarios. If it’s an old high school friend, simply ignore them, but “continue to send the occasional holiday card. You want to create distance while remaining cordial.”
If it’s the mother of your child’s friend you wish to avoid, “have an errand to run if she suggests you stay for coffee during a play date,” and continues that if you keep blowing her off, “she should get the hint.”
First, let me say that I realize we aren’t meant to maintain meaningful relationships with everyone we come into contact with. I get that.
But, I’ve been seeing more and more the “all about me” mentality. We live in a world that preaches self-centeredness on every corner, sometimes even in churches .
If you’re not blissfully happy in your marriage, get out because you deserve to have exactly what you want out of life.
If there is a person in your life with nothing tangible to offer you, cut them off.
I’ve even seen it in the blogging world, recommendations that you leave comments for and attempt to befriend strategic bloggers with something to offer you.
This advice goes directly against everything that God calls of us.
God calls us to love one another with our actions, even when there’s nothing in it for us. Jesus himself came to serve and not to be served (Matthew 20:28).
I was the recipient this week of such loving service. I had posted on Facebook, asking for advice on obtaining moving boxes. My friend, Kathy, said that she could get some at her job. After church on Sunday, she approached me saying she would get some that night. I expected her to call me to arrange for me to pick them up. Instead the next morning, she pulled up in my driveway on her way home from her third shift job, with 47 boxes that she’d saved from recycling at work. Then I found out that she rode with someone else. So, not only did she save all the boxes, load them up in her car and deliver them to me at my house…she also had to transfer them from the car of her friend to her car. All of this after putting in a long day of work, and for someone who is really no one special to her. There was nothing in it for her.
Worldly advice (and even Christian advice), would have told her, “You’ve worked hard and she can get her own boxes.”
Have you ever heard the phrase, “go the extra mile”? Jesus compels us to go the extra mile in Matthew 5:41, and we are told countless times throughout the new testament to deny ourselves and to live for and serve others.
Lord, thank you for placing a few precious people in my life who are willing to go the extra mile and serve with nothing in return. I pray that you will give me a desire and motivation to be that person who seeks to serve others, even when it doesn’t make sense and there is nothing in it for me.