Okay, here’s the thing. First of all, I have to admit that I’m not used to writing on my blog 7 days a week. I generally write M-F and take off the weekends. So, I’m sure that burnout (from writing everyday) is hitting me right now. Also, I’ve found that the better I’m doing with being productive with other things, the less desire I have to do computer things. Which, I consider a personal success since the internet is one of my big stumbling blocks.
I want to apologize to everyone who was relying on me to post the challenges each day.
I have been continuing on in the challenge (and trying to get ready for my graduate comps, and homeschool, and about 12 other things)…so, at least I have that.
Here are the catch up days:
Day 10: Find a Cheerleader.
I touched on this on a previous day, but I really don’t have people in my life to hold me accountable. And since I moved recently, that is even harder to find. So, I’m not really sure what I can do for this one. But, I do agree with Crystal that it’s important. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 talks about this–there is strength in numbers! Crystal says:
You can’t do this discipline thing alone. Well, you can, but I guarantee you it will be a lot harder to keep at it if you don’t have anyone encouraging you along the way. When you have someone willing to check in with you, you gain a major advantage.
My husband is one of the “softies” that she talks about. He is very supportive, but doesn’t work so great as a cheerleader/accountability partner.
However, I do have to say that with this blog I am in a unique position of having a lot of support and accountability from you guys, and I greatly appreciate that! There were days when I stuck with the challenge only because I knew I was going to have to come back here and report. And, there were days when I stuck with it only because of the encouragement you guys gave me (like with the working out thing). Thank you for being my cheerleader in this! It is much appreciated.
Day 11: Finding an Accountability Partner
Crystal acknowledges that there are probably a lot of people, like me, who want an accountability partner but don’t have one and can’t really find one. She advises that you start with local family, friends, church members, etc. But if you can’t find someone in real life, head to your online communities.
She does offer a word of caution:
One caution about joining an online support group: make sure that the group is not too big. Otherwise, it will be too easy for you to slip in and slip out unnoticed. If the group is large, see if there’s one person within the group who is also searching for an
accountability partner. There is just something special about one-to-one accountability.
I have been searching for this very thing for a long time. For friendship, fellowship, accountability. And I have been unsuccessful. But, while I was at Allume, I was blessed to attend tea with Sally Clarkson. During this great talk, she spoke of forming a community around herself. She said that when she started out, she didn’t know anyone, and she just slowly started inviting people over, etc. I went to her in tears, saddened by my own lack of community and feeling like I’m hitting a wall at every turn.
She looked at me, and gave a sad shake of her head and said, “Keep trying, honey. It took me 3 years.”
But during her talk that morning, I was motivated and inspired to keep reaching out, in spite of rejections. I still haven’t found a community of friends here, but I’m feeling better about the situation, more hopeful.
Do you have a support system and encourager/accountability partner in your life? What are your tips for someone who is searching for that.