No Drama Mama: Mind Your Own Business

No Drama Mama

Last week, I started this series about avoiding drama in our lives. You can read the intro post if you missed it. Today we’re further exploring the topic.

One of the easiest ways that I have found to avoid drama is actually quite simple: Mind your own business.

Yes, I know it’s blunt, but sometimes that’s what we need to do. A few months back, I found myself engaging in a disagreement about alcohol sales in my home county—where I don’t even live anymore! Yes, it will always be my hometown, but I don’t live there, I can’t vote there and it’s really not my battle to fight.

God has really been putting Paul’s exhortation on my heart heavily lately as He is constantly transforming my heart to His:

“Aspire to lead a quiet life, to mind your own business, and to work with your own hands, as we commanded you.”
1 Thessalonians 4:11 (my emphasis)

So much meaning in that short statement! At first glance, leading a quiet life, minding your own business, and working with your hands may not seem connected.  In current day, the phrase “mind your own business” basically means “don’t be nosy,” but taken literally, it reminds us that we have plenty to keep us busy in our own lives. If we focus on living out God’s calling, serving Him and our families, we’d have a lot less time for petty disagreements. (Preaching to myself here!)

Now before I get misunderstood, I am NOT talking about being inward focused, or saying that we shouldn’t share the gospel, or concern ourselves with others for the purpose of lifting them up, encouraging them, easing their burdens. I’m talking about those times when we stick our noses into a discussion or situation just to judge, criticize, or argue. That’s not okay.

The truth is opinions are rarely changed due to such arguments. Shocking, I know. Yet we tend to waste so much time and energy engaging in these battles, disagreements, and disputes.  Engaging in drama.

Another truth, and I’m going out on a limb here, there is probably something more pressing that your family needs from you. Don’t worry about what Susie and Jane Doe think about the latest political issue or controversial topic. Don’t even worry about the fact that so-and-so thinks you’re a bad mom for doing xyz. Concern yourself instead with living the life that God has called you to. Concern yourself with serving God, serving your family, and loving God’s people.

Ladies, it’s time to listen to the Holy Spirit’s urging and push the little red “x” in the corner, or simply keep on scrolling.  It’s time to learn to walk away with grace and realize that some things just aren’t worth it.

The next time you find yourself upset about something you read online, or a comment someone has made to or about you, ask yourself—does this concern me? Does it directly affect my family or me? If the answer is no, then consider moving on.

Sometimes, a situation might not directly affect us, but might instead raise a legitimate concern for another person, and we’re going to address that in next week’s post.

Is there a time when you would have benefited from “minding your own business” and letting a comment go instead of making it an issue?

 

Comments

  1. says

    Wonderful post, a friend and I were talking of this very thing. Thank you, you confirmed what God had been placing on my heart of late. Tara (The Proverbs 31 Sanctuary).

  2. Jenifer Metzger says

    Thank you for linking up at Woman to Woman Word Filled Wednesday!

    We need to be caring of others, but there is a difference in just stinking our noses in the business of others. Great post!

  3. says

    I read your comment on my blog and decided to stop by for a visit. I’m so glad that I did. I love the Scripture that you chose and this: “Concern yourself with serving God, serving your family, and loving God’s people.” We make it so complicated, don’t we. But God makes it pretty simple. I’ve also determined that we will never change anyone’s religious or political view from getting into an argument on social media. God’s been working this in me for awhile now. Thanks for your honest words.

    • Crystal says

      Thank you so much for the kind words, Donna! Yes, we make it complicated and we are so easily distracted away from God’s purposes. And you’re right, he makes it pretty simple.

  4. says

    Absolutely! My help came in the form of putting blinders on myself after we welcomed our 7th baby last summer… our family didn't look like any other families we knew, so why should it look like any other families we knew? Best thing we could have done. We were too busy minding our own business. :)

  5. says

    Wonderful post! Some people seem to like arguing just for the sake of arguing! You’re so right, we’re not going to change someone’s mind that way. I am mindful of facebook posts that can be a bit political and how people argue in their comments and some even get rude! Thanks so much for linking up to Making Your Home Sing Monday today!

I love to hear your feedback and value your thoughts! All I ask is that we remain respectful and civil, even when we disagree. Thanks so much for reading. I appreciate you!

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