One of the easiest ways that I have found to avoid drama is actually quite simple: Mind your own business.
Yes, I know it’s blunt, but sometimes that’s what we need to do. A few months back, I found myself engaging in a disagreement about alcohol sales in my home county—where I don’t even live anymore! Yes, it will always be my hometown, but I don’t live there, I can’t vote there and it’s really not my battle to fight.
God has really been putting Paul’s exhortation on my heart heavily lately as He is constantly transforming my heart to His:
“Aspire to lead a quiet life, to mind your own business, and to work with your own hands, as we commanded you.”
1 Thessalonians 4:11 (my emphasis)
So much meaning in that short statement! At first glance, leading a quiet life, minding your own business, and working with your hands may not seem connected. In current day, the phrase “mind your own business” basically means “don’t be nosy,” but taken literally, it reminds us that we have plenty to keep us busy in our own lives. If we focus on living out God’s calling, serving Him and our families, we’d have a lot less time for petty disagreements. (Preaching to myself here!)
Now before I get misunderstood, I am NOT talking about being inward focused, or saying that we shouldn’t share the gospel, or concern ourselves with others for the purpose of lifting them up, encouraging them, easing their burdens. I’m talking about those times when we stick our noses into a discussion or situation just to judge, criticize, or argue. That’s not okay.
The truth is opinions are rarely changed due to such arguments. Shocking, I know. Yet we tend to waste so much time and energy engaging in these battles, disagreements, and disputes. Engaging in drama.
Another truth, and I’m going out on a limb here, there is probably something more pressing that your family needs from you. Don’t worry about what Susie and Jane Doe think about the latest political issue or controversial topic. Don’t even worry about the fact that so-and-so thinks you’re a bad mom for doing xyz. Concern yourself instead with living the life that God has called you to. Concern yourself with serving God, serving your family, and loving God’s people.
Ladies, it’s time to listen to the Holy Spirit’s urging and push the little red “x” in the corner, or simply keep on scrolling. It’s time to learn to walk away with grace and realize that some things just aren’t worth it.
The next time you find yourself upset about something you read online, or a comment someone has made to or about you, ask yourself—does this concern me? Does it directly affect my family or me? If the answer is no, then consider moving on.
Sometimes, a situation might not directly affect us, but might instead raise a legitimate concern for another person, and we’re going to address that in next week’s post.
Is there a time when you would have benefited from “minding your own business” and letting a comment go instead of making it an issue?