Mama Moments: Humility & Forgiveness {Guest Post}

I get lots of guest post submissions. Usually, they are thinly veiled advertising, and just companies wanting a free link back to their site. However, every once in a while, I get a real gem like this one. Pat’s story really touched me, and I pray it will touch you as well.

Mama moments

On a weekly basis, I “steal away” solo with each of the 3 kids we still have at home.  We call it a date.  It doesn’t have to be anything fancy or contrived or expensive; most times we just run errands.  The point is to share extended moments, one-on-one.

Recently I was spending time with one of said kids, who was very excited about a few books we had picked up at the library.  They were part of a series he thoroughly enjoyed, and he was overflowing with excitement! 

At any rate, my son went into g.r.e.a.t. detail to explain the w.h.o.l.e. series to me, spoilers and all.  The conversation continued enthusiastically while I drove.  While we shopped.  Walking through the parking lot.  In the bank. Get the picture?  My mind wandered.  I started a mental “to-do” list for when we got home…for tomorrow… Heck, for next week!

And then I heard it:

“Mom, I’m so glad you like to listen to me!”

I looked at him – there was no sarcasm.  Just an open face that radiated pure love and sincere appreciation.

I was cut; stung by my own selfishness.  I snapped every cell of my body back to attention.

Later that day, after the kids had headed off to bed, I stopped into their bedrooms and before I kissed him goodnight, I apologized.  “Sweetheart, you know today while we were out, I had a hard time paying attention and focusing on your story at times.  I hope you can forgive me for being distracted…” And you know what that sweet teenage boy did?

Reached up, hugged me tightly around the neck and replied “Mom, I know you had a hard day.  Life happens – don’t worry about it…”

Oh, that I should so easily forgive…

Those of you who are parents know this is how it works with kids.  These apparently insignificant events come out of the blue and at the end of the day provide deep meaning and lasting impressions.  Teachable times go both ways; parents aren’t the only teachers.

But it’s often we who recognize ~ and learn most from ~ those moments…

Bio – Pat is a Yankee city-girl who has been adopted by the sleepy, sunny south.  Married for, um, more than 25 years and the mother of 5, she woke up one day recently to discover she reached the stage of life where she is the “older woman” described in Titus 2:3-5. A coffee lover, the purchase of a coffee shop a few years ago was her personal foray into the small, family-owned business arena.  Today,  Mom’s Morning Coffee  and Help 4 Your Homeschool are her outlets for packaging up and sharing the nuggets of wisdom God and life experiences have taught her.


  1. kentuckygal50 says

    That is beautiful, Crystal (and Pat)!

    I let my feelings get hurt yesterday and my younger son (who is so close to 16 he can TASTE it!) came up and gave me a hug and kept asking what he could do to help me feel better. I LOVE MY KIDS!

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