Sometimes a peaceful home is a precarious thing, especially when we aren’t implementing the strategies to be intentional about making our home a haven. And sometimes one big toddler fit is all it takes to tip the scale from peace to chaos.
The Secret to Peaceful Parenting
I’d be lying if I said there is some kind of magical parenting potion that would suddenly make your children or parenting perfect.
But what I can tell you is that this simple technique will bring added peace to your parenting…appreciate your children.
I know you love your kids. And of course you appreciate them. But sometimes there is a gap between what we know in our hearts and what we express intentionally with our actions.
No Regrets Parenting
There are many ways that we can intentionally appreciate our children. The biggest one for me is what I call “no regret parenting.”
It’s something of a misnomer because we could never truly have no regrets. However, it helps me make my decisions with a higher perspective, recognizing that my time with my children is limited. Whether it is ended suddenly, or bit-by-bit through growing up, the hard truth is that our time with our children is short and fleeting.
And I want to make that time matter.
It doesn’t mean we don’t have bad moments, but I want to make sure that I spend enough of each day loving on and enjoying my kids so that if it were my last day with them, I would have no regrets.
So, what are some practical ways that we can apply this?
- Pray! Like we discussed on Day 1, that is always the first step. Always.
- Practice the golden rule…even with your kids. Some of the things that I see parents expecting of their children or saying to their children is just ridiculous. Respect your children as people. Treat them with kindness. Speak to them with kindness. “Do unto others…” includes our families.
- Prevent meltdowns. Instead of needing to deal with a meltdown, work to prevent it. Often our kids are grumpy for the same reasons we are–they are tired, hungry, hurried, stressed, etc. Remember, as moms, we set the tone in our homes. There are many grumpiness triggers that we are in full control of and many times we can stop that meltdown before it ever happens.
- Give them your undivided attention. Sometimes my to-do list is just too long and I feel like I don’t have time to sit for half an hour and play a game or read a book. However, I have found that making time to spend that quality time with my kids is necessary for peace in our home. It helps me to practice that “no regrets” parenting I mentioned. I can say with confidence that I have never regretted taking time to focus on my kids, but I have regretted many times of saying “not now” too often.
Embrace this Season
“Children are not a distraction from more important work. They are the most important work.” -CS Lewis
You are called to be a mother right now. Accept it. Embrace it.
So much of the tension I have felt over the years from not having time to do this or that came from my own selfishness. I’m ashamed to admit it, but there were times when I was striving for other things, and forsaking the very gift and calling that the Lord had given me. I experienced constant tension as I realized I couldn’t “do it all.” Something had to give.
It wasn’t my family that was the problem, it was my own attitude. When I stopped fighting it, I can’t tell you the peace I felt.
Maybe that means you won’t get the “me time” you want right now. Maybe it means you can’t write that book you’ve always planned, see your friends as often as you like, or whatever it is you’re missing out on. But, whatever it is you’re missing out on, please know that this season won’t last forever. But, for now, you may need to let it go.
Embrace this season and appreciate your children.
You might be surprised at the amount of peace such a simple thing will bring to your heart and home.
Additional Articles & Resources
- The Homemaker’s Quiet Time Journal–my book for homemakers with quiet time tips, journaling sheets, my own quiet time routine, and lots of great verses that are specifically applicable to our lives as homemakers. You can also visit Why You Need a Daily Quiet Time, and 10 Tips to Get the Most out of Your Daily Quiet Time.
- My Time is Not My Own–lessons for mothering, from looking at the way Jesus responded to interruptions.
- Are We Chasing Dreams or Chasing God–The importance of seeking God’s ways in our lives.
- Serving Where God Calls You–thriving as a SAHM.
- How 936 Pennies Will Change the Way You Parent
- Hands-Free Mama
- 10 Things I learned when I stopped yelling at my kids
- What’s a SAHM really worth?
- You’re not JUST a Mom
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