Why I Don’t Color My Gray Hair

I’ve had a few gray hairs since I was about 20. Now I have a rather large patch of gray that makes me look older than my 34 years.

Common opinion says I should color my hair every few weeks in order to avoid the unsightly grays. But, as you can see from the photo, I don’t do that.

Because it is such an unpopular stance, I thought I would take some time today and share why I don’t color my gray hair.

Gray hair 2

Before we get started, though, I just want to reiterate my purpose here. You’ll notice the title of this post is “why don’t color my gray hair.” This is solely about me and my reasons, and should not be taken as a judgment on anyone else’s decisions.

There are actually several reasons, some of which are practical and some of which are more philosophical. Here we go, in no particular order…

It’s Expensive

Getting hair colored at the salon is very expensive, especially for long, thick hair like mine. I used to buy the boxed color back in my couponing days several years ago. I would get expensive brands for cheap, or even for free, and I would use it to color my hair myself. I no longer play the coupon game, and even boxed hair color can be pricey, so this is a good place to be intentional in our finances and cut out that expense.

Lack of Time/Energy

So, we’ve established that having it done at a salon is not in our budget. Buying a cheap boxed color would probably be doable, except that I really can’t do it myself anymore. Over the past year or so, my chronic illness has worsened to the point that I have to be very intentional in how I spend my limited energy and strength each day.

Even very basic things sometimes suffer, necessary things suffer. Taking a shower is a chore (and one that I can’t even do every single day!), so standing in my bathroom for all the time, effort, and clean up required to color my long and thick hair is completely out of the question.

Toxic Chemicals

I haven’t tried to dye my hair since I have had more severe symptoms with MCS, but I don’t think it would go well due to the harmful and toxic chemicals. Even most “natural” hair dyes contain harmful chemicals at worst, and at best they are irritants for sensitive people.

There are a few completely natural alternatives (such as henna based colors, etc.) that I could probably tolerate, but it would still be more time and energy than I want to devote to disguising grays.

God made my hair this way

There are so many modern beauty standards that I have been forced to reevaluate on God’s terms. So many standards of beauty for women that I have bought into the “that’s just the way it’s done” mentality, only to realize there is absolutely no Biblical basis for it.

The world says that I should cover my unsightly grays. Some even say that allowing grays to shine through is a way of “letting myself go” and that I owe it to my husband and myself to look my best, which includes having my younger looking hair.

While I agree that we should strive to be put together, I don’t agree that looking my best needs to be covering up or changing the way that God created me. God made my hair to turn gray.

What the Bible says about gray hair

The Bible has something to say about gray hair. Proverbs 16:31 says,

The silver-haired head is a crown of glory,
If it is found in the way of righteousness.

Did you catch that? The silver-haired head can be a crown of glory! So why, then, do we insist it should be altered?

“It’s what’s inside that counts.”

The Bible teaches that it’s what’s in the heart that matters, not what we look like on the outside (1 Samuel 16:7). And this is the message that I want to teach my boys about beauty as well. In order to teach that to my children, I need to believe it myself and live it. When I spend time, energy, and money to alter my appearance for worldly standards of beauty, I’m not teaching them that message, but the opposite.

Conclusion

In summary, please hear me I don’t think there is anything wrong with dying your hairI have done it a few times over the years myself. I don’t think there is any problem with coloring one’s hair if it makes you happy and is what you choose to do. However, I do think there is a problem with women being pressured to “cover those unsightly grays.”

God created everything about me, including the fact that my hair turns gray after so many years. I have to believe that He is okay with my gray hair, and that is all the permission I need.

6 great reasons that you don't need permission to stop coloring your gray hair.

 

Comments

  1. Judy says

    I started turning gray in my early 20s. I am now in my early 60s and my hair is whiter than my 84 year old mother. I have always told people who commented on my hair that I had “earned” every one of them. I also belive that we should look and dress our best in order to glorify the God that made us and I’m just fine with how He made me. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. May God continue to bless you!

    • Crystal Brothers says

      Thank you, Judy, for sharing your thoughts about this as well! I love hearing from those who are older and wiser :)

  2. Anonymous says

    I am very thankful for every gray hair I have and I. Have lots here lately but I tell everyone they are my heavenly high lights the Lord blessed me with them … Which I know everyone don’t fill the,same and that’s ok

  3. says

    I’m going to be growing out mine this summer. I only have used boxed dye maybe 4 or 5 times a year, but it’s just too much time, too much expense, and too much obsessing over it! I’m in my 30s, and work with a girl who colors every month and is crazy if she’s got a wrinkle, or a white hair, or etc… there’s nothing wrong with aging but the older I get, them more I feel like there IS something wrong with making women feel like they have to look 20 to be attractive, and have any worth.

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  4. Ludie says

    I raised 4 sons & worked long hours inside and outside the home to help support them also. I have gray and some white hair. I have some wrinkles. I am blessed to have seen my sons grown & have seen 2 great-grandbabies. I am ok with how I look & the fact that I don’t look like a young woman. I have earned my stripes. God is exceedingly gracious, merciful, and good. At 65 years old, I think my hair IS its natural color.

    • Crystal Brothers says

      This is beautiful Ludie! Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and perspective. And for the gentle reminder that natural color changes with time.

  5. Beth Cranford says

    I don’t color mine either. I’m too stubborn!
    And you, my friend, are beautiful, even if some of your hair is gray!

  6. Anna says

    I am glad I stumbled across your post. I couldn’t agree more. I have never had a desire to dye my hair. Years ago, I was at the gym and saw an older lady with the most gorgeous long, grey curly hair. She looked so happy and healthy. I too have long curly hair, and thought, “Wow, mine might someday look like that.” Now that I’m in my early 40’s, I am getting a few silver streaks here and there. I won’t lie, I have stopped and seriously thought, “should I dye my hair?” However, I just feel like that would not be ME. So I don’t do it, and I feel much at peace with the decision. I am happy to read articles like yours. Not because I think others should feel the same as I do, but because it’s neat to read about others who happen to. :)

  7. says

    I don’t color mine either. I love my natural color, and to cover the greys would also be coloring all my natural color and natural highlights. Personally I love my greys. I hope I still love them as time goes on because I agree with so many of the reasons you’ve listed here.

I love to hear your feedback and value your thoughts! All I ask is that we remain respectful and civil, even when we disagree. Thanks so much for reading. I appreciate you!

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