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I know this is generally considered too obvious and not practical, but hear me out. I’m not going to tell you to pray about the situation (at least not directly). Too often, for me that Sounds something like this: “Lord, you know I don’t want to argue, but she is just so darn infuriating…” Not exactly, but you get the idea.
Sometimes it sounds a lot like a venting session and I end up even more frustrated than when I started.
So if praying directly about the disagreement doesn’t help me, what does? Here are the more specific ways that I use prayer to help me in such situations.
1. Pray for peace.
When I feel the Holy Spirit convicting me about a situation, I immediately begin to pray for God’s perfect peace and love to fill my heart, and for that to be reflected in my words and actions.. I pray for Him to transform my heart to His and remove all anger and bitterness that resides there, and humble my spirit. Because I know that there is something in my heart that is not right. I have to recognize that the thing driving me to engage in these useless disputes is not from the Lord.
2. Pray for the other person involved.
A couple years ago, I was reading this great book with a group of ladies. It was called The Frazzled Female. There was one particular chapter that really resonated with me. The author recommended praying for a person you were frustrated with. She was specifically talking about frustration caused by a long shopping line, a bad driver, etc.—but I have found it useful in all areas of disagreements. Nothing defeats anger and bitterness toward someone faster than praying God’s blessings over them!
It’s amazing the peace that fills MY heart when I can just stop the anger in it’s tracks—stop the enemy in his tracks, and instead start to pray for blessings in someone’s life! If you’re at a loss, Paul has many beautiful prayers that can apply to so many people and situations—use God’s word if you don’t know enough about the person or situation to pray specifically for them.
3. Pray for Wisdom and Discernment.
Allow me to rock your world for a minute…You’re not always right.
I know. It was a shocker to me, too, because apparently I’m not either. God, however is always right. He is perfect and His will is perfect. He is all-knowing, and He will provide you with wisdom if you seek it with an open heart. Pray for God to reveal His perfect will to all involved.
Ask Him to show you if there is anything about your own opinion that needs to be changed. PS—this is probably best done before you engage in an argument! Better to have yourself divinely enlightened before you open your mouth than to spill out ugly words that can’t be taken back…
4. Praise Him.
And when all else fails, just stop what you’re doing, take a breather. And just praise God for His wonderful creation and who He is!
Chime In: What has helped you avoid drama?